Tuesday, April 28, 2009

Shhh, I'm thinking.

I'm quiet, introverted (whatever you want to call it). I always have been. It's who I am and I imagine it's probably who I'll always be. And guess what-- I'm just fine with it.

Why, though, do some people assume that "quiet" girls are either (a) stuck up or (b) without a personality. I've been accused of both.

1. I'm not stuck up. Quite the contrary. I like people and will talk with anyone that wants to talk to me. But I'm probably not going to initiate the conversation- it doesn't mean that I don't like you at all, it means I'm shy. But if you are talking to me, trust me I'm listening to you.

and this one bugs me the most . . .

2. I actually do have a personality. Trust me, I'm hilarious (well, maybe just to Grant and a few other close friends)! Here's the deal-- I got to know you a little before I regale you with my humor (or loyalty for that matter). But once you are my friend, you will be blinded by my sparkling personality (just kidding- I'm probably a little bit more on the twisty side). But just because I don't have to be the center of attention in every situation or thrive on the sound of my own voice does NOT MEAN I LACK IN PERSONALITY. We just have to get to know each other a little better.

Okay, I think I'm done.

I wrote this post because I was repeatedly asked awhile ago if "I was okay" because I wasn't making mindless conversation with a group of women. Yes, I was just fine- didn't have anything of substance to add, so I didn't say anything. Had to eventually make up a story so they would leave me alone. These are the same people that cut me off mid-sentence while I was talking, so yeah, I can tell they really cared about what I was saying.

It takes all kinds to make the world go 'round. I just happen to be on the quieter side of life.


Krystal (aka Pirouette) said...

Girl, I know how you feel! I went through a season where it seemed like everyone was asking me, "Are you okay?" It about drove me bananas. I may have said to someone, "Well, I would be okay if folks stopped asking me!"

When I have something to say, I say it. When I don't, I keep quiet. Really simple. Doesn't mean I'm not engaged. It just means I have nothing substantial to add at the moment.

I stopped apologizing for my quiet personality a long time ago. God made me this way for a reason. He doesn't make any mistakes. End of story.

Andrea and Grant said...

I hear that. It's who we are. I'm fine with me, why can't other people be?

Harmony Vuycankiat said...

You know what God has to say on the issue don'tcha? Women should have a gentle and quiet spirit- don't have anything of value to add to the conversation then don't add it! I think you are just ahead of the learning curve on this one! :) Props to you my friend!